I look at people and situations, and I see beyond the bad and the ugly … I see the good.
Anonyma, on the other hand, looks at situations and people – including me – and sees nothing but the bad and the ugly.
People tend to simplify this polarity as optimist and pessimist viewpoints. But it isn’t as complicated as that. The way I look at it: both viewpoints are one and the same. At least they have the same effect on the people holding the viewpoints.
I’m often blind to the faults of others, and – to my peril – I look at what is possible, the potential in every situation and person. And in my experience, 99 out of 100 people that I’ve met have taken advantage of this optimistic schism in my nature. Basically, I don’t need an excuse to believe something good is inevitable.
Anonyma is blind to the good in others – and to her peril – she hunts for the problem, the obstacle, the Murphy in every situation. And in her experience, 99 out of 100 people she’s met have always taken advantage of this pessismistic shcism in her nature. Basically, she doesn’t need an excuse to believe something bad is inevitable.
It’s a tough life either way.
Life after death or death after life ????????
Is there life after death is the question that has often troubled me? If there is then why do we die, what I mean to say is if again life is going to start then what is that death signifies. If death is not an end then why this pause has been created by the nature. I feel that death actually doesn’t give pain to the person who dies but to them whom he leaves behind. Is death a punishment for love is the next question that pops up, well there are so many things that has been written and talked about by so many “Gyanijis” but still we haven’t got any conclusion. So many schools of thoughts are working and making money in this country but no one has taken up this issue. I remember once visiting a pravachan where the speaker said of a Brahmin takes life of a dog if he abstains from worshiping, I suddenly asked “Will a dog take birth as a Brahmin if he worships?” I was made to stay quiet with a comment “Your thoughts need to be cleansed”. I have thought on both sides of the coin and now feel that there is no life after death. Its just like a flower blooms and then after completing its age sheds down. Similarly human after completing its age dies. Its just a biotic process which ends itself. No one has come to tell us what happens after death hope someday we will be able to know that also. “Death” they say is ultimate truth and I will like to add is an ultimate puzzle.
Fear Factor – “Boss Baap Re Baap”
I was always known as a hard worker. I use to spend more than 14 hours a day in office. God so exhausted I use to feel when I use to get out from office. Only then I use to remember that I have a family who are in this city. My six month old son seldom saw me. I was a “Sunday Wala Papa” for him. Time kept on ticking itself years passed and I witnessed people getting promotions, partying and enjoying. One day I realized all these f_ _ _ers have been putting less efforts than me. The moment this thought flashed my mind my productivity started falling. More time use to go in thinking where I was lacking. Why after all these sacrifices I am the loser. I never failed in any of the responsibilities handed over to me. I even initiated few processes which were later followed by entire branches in India. I interacted with many of my peers to understand my problem. I was astound to know that the Branch Manager I was working under had some disliking for Bengalis.
Every year we were rated as per our performances and every employee awaited the revelation eagerly. I never felt the urge. I suddenly felt being a follower of Krishna “Karmanye Vadhikarste Ma Faleshu kadachana”. I knew I could do nothing except giving lesser chances to branch manager to offend me. I felt even he understood that. Slowly the fun started in parties also where comments were made to me by branch manager. I kept on bearing because the job I was into was the work I always wanted to do and I was not going to lose it for a luniac.
As they say “Bhagwan ke ghar der hai Andher nahi” the branch manager resigned and joined some big company and new manager came. He was good to me and often interacted with me. I suggested so many ideas, branch was heading towards high on graph, this was the first time I was expecting good rating rather I was confident. If you think this happened you are wrong just before 1 month of rating this manager also left and new spineless manager came in.
I was again rated average.
I finally started looking for new opportunities in other companies. I gave certain interviews, got some big offers but something was stopping me. I didn’t know what.
One day BSNL guys while digging cut through our network cable and entire branch became lifeless. One of our asset division building which was situated a bit far had connectivity. No one dared to pick the challenge. Suddenly I was in demand. I was given the hot seat. To run a branch from 5 kms away was definitely a tough job. I remembered one of my teachers Dr. Choukkar “Performers give performance when it matters”. I took the task in my hand and run the 450 crore branch for three consecutive days.
I started receiving congrats calls. My efforts were noticed in the company for the first time. I thought my time has changed. I was promoted with a dual charge of Branch Manager and Branch Operations Manager of a new branch. The rating time was coming near. I was so exited, the days were not passing. I knew this time I will be rated as excellent.
The big day came my boss had been promoted and I was again rated average. I don’t even have words for my feelings. I couldn’t say anything because any disappointment on my part would have got my team down. Though I could see every eye saying “We are Sorry”
Finally I made up my mind to move. I got a very big opportunity (package+designation). I announced my departure to my bosses. Suddenly they realized how important I am for them. I was offered comfortable branches, promise of salary hike and good rating. My decision was unshakable. They hoaxed me. All “saam, daam, dund, bhed” was applied. Finally I bid farewell and moved on.
Now I am in a good organization in regional and analytic profile. Enjoying my work but then with a fear God only knows when I will meet someone again who hates “Bengalis”
Off late I have realized that in India people don’t respect individuals, what I mean to say is that respect comes with the relation. You are father of XYZ who have different status you are brother of SUB you have different respect in the society. There are again different sub categories. If you are son or daughter in a family you have different status but if you are daughter in law you have different status (least). Son in law is again a privileged category who has class of his own. He is the god in the family. I myself feel this in my in laws place.
I wonder when we will realize the funda of “Vasudev Katumbakam” and start accepting all the individuals with respect. Maybe our generation or the next one who are getting into nuclear families will have lesser time in future and hence the bond of relation will weaken up and relation of individual respect will get developed.
Why do people commit suicide? Are they coward to run away from their problems or they are brave enough to end the beautiful life which they might not get again. Do they die because they couldn’t fulfill their expectations or they failed to stand to other’s wishes? I have been told that this is an illness that arises of depression but then why should depression creep in a person. Failure in a particular activity itself teaches steps to be successful in that errand. I wonder when people will realize the positivity of failure.
How come a hero for so many years becomes a villain in one day? People don’t even listen to what you have to say, they just see what they want to and decide again what they like. They don’t even bother to think what impact their decision is going to make on someone’s life. Sometimes I feel that people want others to suffer from the same pain they go through. Is this a human or inhuman tendency can be debated anytime you take up this matter with the experienced lot of your family. Most of the times you will hear from them we also have faced such problems and we accepted what our elders said. I am getting into deeper thoughts these days of setting the things right as once upon a time I was told “Things you cannot accept change and accept those which you cannot change”. To make myself bit comfortable I was going through a spiritual book where I found a very comforting statement it says “There are three mirrors which shows your image, One is that shows what you want to see, second is what others want to see and third is the truth and now it depends on you which image you pick”. I am trying to pick the third mirror for the first time in my life without a fear of first or second mirror let us see how it goes.